There are things to do before the baby comes and you should start making a list now. Because regrets after having a kid can leave a dad up for multiple late nights wondering what went wrong. Hey Siri, play “Regrets” by Jay-Z.

A kid changes everything. That’s not a cliche, it’s just true. But nobody warns you how much it can change your marriage, especially when the arrival comes with stress, trauma, or a medical scare that never really lets go of your nervous system.